tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11125127.post113772969851817105..comments2023-05-02T10:52:43.408-04:00Comments on Church of the Big Sky: Dispatches from the FrontMerujohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14123831956012950960noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11125127.post-1137784623268422592006-01-20T14:17:00.000-05:002006-01-20T14:17:00.000-05:00I sincerely hope your brother is feeling better, b...I sincerely hope your brother is feeling better, but I also totally understand your feelings about your own birthday. For me, it's compounded by the fact that I'm the one who remembers everyone else's birthday while having to remind them of mine if I want to hear from them.<BR/><BR/>In the greater scheme, my 30th was fine, good at times even, but it still seems lame compared to the surprise weekend getaway bash with 20 or so people a dear friend of mine had a few months before mine. And everyone else over 30 seemed to have some great story for theirs as well.<BR/><BR/>I just try to remember they don't think of bdays the same way I do. Of course, someone always seems to be taking care of theirs...Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06168243108016358137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11125127.post-1137775698683782322006-01-20T11:48:00.000-05:002006-01-20T11:48:00.000-05:00Oy vey! When I was really little, kids didn't real...Oy vey! When I was really little, kids didn't really want to go to my birthday party because it was the day after Halloween. Who wants cake when you have a pillowcase full of mini candy bars?!?<BR/><BR/>But a birthday around Christmas - now that a lifetime bummer/challenge from the celebratory standpoint.<BR/><BR/>In Russia, it's the responsibility of the birthday girl/guy to arrange/hold the celebration. People invite you to join in their fun. Perhaps, had I not been scraping the bottom of the money barrel, I should have done that myself. But still, you kinda hope that your friends will get together and do something for you as a group. Maybe this speaks more to me being somewhat antisocial. I dunno.<BR/><BR/>(Happy late birthday to you, too, Cube.) :-)Merujohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14123831956012950960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11125127.post-1137771276247174422006-01-20T10:34:00.000-05:002006-01-20T10:34:00.000-05:00Birthdays are milestones. Some are blessed with b...Birthdays are milestones. Some are blessed with big broohaha's, and others get minimal to none. I was born just before Christmas, so you KNOW the story of my birthday life, even from my own relatives. It's amazing how easily the excuse "I'm so busy right now" trips from the tongue at that time of year. I wish I could report that I've gotten used to it, but I haven't. It's human nature to see that as "our day" and to want a little more out of the day, isn't it? I'm not sure anyone ever outgrows that need.Washington Cubehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02892459114050731786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11125127.post-1137768416316590562006-01-20T09:46:00.000-05:002006-01-20T09:46:00.000-05:00Well, we'll meet up at some point and have a late ...Well, we'll meet up at some point and have a late 30th and 40th bash for ourselves, eh? <BR/><BR/>I understand the guilt and selfishness issue. My friend who took me to dinner and gave me a lovely gift could not have been more generous or sweet. <BR/><BR/>It's so stupid, yet, you want to feel special. And then, you find yourself thinking, well, I guess I'm not really that special, and I should just get over yourself. Then, you hear from a friend how a spouse or an S.O. put together some great gathering with a bunch of friends.<BR/><BR/>One of my problems is, I don't have that many friends here in DC. (But those I have, I really treasure. And without them, I would have faded away last year.)<BR/><BR/>I wish I could have been out there for my brother's birthday. I haven't been home in a very long time now. I need to take a couple of leave days at some point and either fly out or drive out to the Midwest. Just a little reality check...Merujohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14123831956012950960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11125127.post-1137767518436525532006-01-20T09:31:00.000-05:002006-01-20T09:31:00.000-05:00(((HUGS)))i understand the milestones and the impo...(((HUGS)))<BR/><BR/>i understand the milestones and the importance placed on them. and unfortunately, those around us don't always feel the same way. i'm struggling with the sense of disappointment that the man with whom i live and share my life didn't make a bigger deal about 30 for me this year and the accompanying feelings of guilt of selfishness those thoughts produce. <BR/><BR/>but looking at how he marked 30 for me and how i would mark 30 for him, this was a big disappointment. <BR/><BR/>i'm sorry your brother was all alone on his birthday. i'm sure he knows you were thinking of him and would have been there if you could.suzehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04080418894779324914noreply@blogger.com